Lesbian Love Styles by Jenny Yates Venus is the planet of love and pleasure, and its sign shows how you approach romance. What makes you happy? What attracts you? How should you meet women, if you’re single? If you’re involved with someone, what gifts to you bring to your relationship? What about your lover, or the woman you’ve lately been fantasizing about? How do you win her, and what will she be like when you do? You need to know these things! So, remember, don’t just say, “What’s your sign?” Besides being way too overdone, that isn’t enough information! Find out the date, the year, the city, and the time (if she knows it), and then write it down quickly, before you get so tranced out by her alluring eyes that you forget! And then look her up and find out her Venus sign. (See the box below this article on how to do this.) Venus in Aries With Venus in fiery Aries, you are happiest when you’re expressing yourself. You need a lot of room to be yourself, and can be impatient if people cling to you, or try to cramp your style. You know what you want, and generally, you have a strategy for getting it. Independent pleasures are always most alluring, although you are quite happy to have the company of someone equally intrepid and self- confident. Venus in Aries gives a preference for leadership situations. If you want to meet women, go somewhere where your courage, daring and assurance shine through - such as a mountaineering expedition. Let women see how in charge you can be, because you are going to be that way in the relationship! If you’re in love with a Venus-in-Aries woman, you don’t have to worry about her being shy and retiring, or sending out mixed signals. On the contrary, you may find her a little pushy at times. But she’s very exciting, adventurous, often pioneering. Give her her head, and be prepared to change your plans spontaneously every once in a while. Some famous women with Venus in Aries: Melissa Etheridge, Rosie O’Donnell, Janet Jackson, Lady Gaga, Queen Latifah, Shakira, Ashley Judd, Christina Ricci, Sarah Jessica Parker, Sarah Palin, Mariah Carey, Camryn Manheim, Dorothy Allison, Barbara Hammer, Miriam Makeba, Elena Kagan, May Sarton, Rosa Parks, Isak Dinesen, Daphne DuMaurier, Dorothy Crowfoot Hodgkin, Jane Roberts, Adrienne Rich, Jill Johnston, Betty Friedan, Joan Crawford, Judy Colllins, Liza Minnelli, Lynn Redgrave, Audrey Hepburn, Madeleine Albright, Marilyn Monroe, Elizabeth Taylor, Jean Harlow, Jayne Mansfield, Clare Boothe Luce, Isadora Duncan, Martha Graham, Edna St. Vincent Millay, Anne Bonny, Ann Boleyn, Charlotte Bronte, Queen Victoria Venus in Taurus With Venus in earthy Taurus, you are a very sensual woman, and you like to surround yourself with things that are physical. You love textures, shapes, colors, and tastes. You are, basically, a tree- hugger, with a special appreciation for natural materials. You may have a talent for wood-carving or ceramics, and Taurus is also associated with musical ability. In relationships, your best trait is your loyalty. You are slow to get involved, however, and you’re generally on the lookout for those warning signals that can mean a roller-coaster relationship. You’re not really into this, as you like to be comfortable. And it can take you quite a while to change your status, even when you’re feeling a lot of lust for someone. If you want to meet women, you need to get away from your beaten path. Try a community garden or a pottery class. If you’re in love with a Venus-in-Taurus woman, it’s best to move a bit slowly and not scare her. At the same time, be clear, because she hates it when people are dishonest or confusing. She is a very sensual woman as well, and you aren’t as likely to suffer the dreaded lesbian bed death with her. She is always going to need touch in her life. Some famous women with Venus in Taurus: Tracy Chapman, Alanis Morissette, Fiona Apple, Princess Diana, Sandra Bernhard, Cyndi Lauper, Liv Tyler, Grace Jones, Janis Ian, Anne Murray, Rosanne Cash, Rosemary Clooney, Simone Signoret, Sonia Braga, Aung San Suu Kyi, Marian Wright Edelman, Nancy Pelosi, Jessica Lange, Judith Jamison, Patti LaBelle, Gladys Knight, Carly Simon, Anne Waldman, Margaret Drabble, Ella Fitzgerald, Peggy Lee, Rachel Carson, Carol Burnett, Ida Rolf, Jane Russell, Alberta Hunter, Bessie Smith, Katherine Dunham, Dolores Huerta, Anne Frank, Harriet Beecher Stowe, Alice B. Toklas, Catherine de Medici Venus in Gemini With Venus in airy Gemini, your mind is the key to your happiness. You love to talk to people, to share your ideas and perceptions with them. You also love books, magazines, newspapers, word games, the internet - anything that stimulates you mentally. You are often guided by your curiosity, and satisfying it makes you particularly happy. In relationships, your strongest asset is your ability to communicate. You are truly interested in other people, so you’re a good listener. You like to connect with people in a variety of situations. However, sometimes it can be dangerous to be so adaptable. You can compartmentalize yourself too much, offering very different things to different people, feeling a bit fragmented by this. Since you get around so much, though, it’s easy for you to meet women - on the phone, through the internet, at the bus stop, just about anywhere. If you are in love with a Venus-in-Gemini woman, you should exert yourself to be amusing! She needs for you to be very open in the way you communicate with her, and so it’s fine to tell her every little thing that goes through your mind. You can also use words to get her into an erotic mood, but choose them carefully. She can become so interested in something you’ve said that she forgets about making love! Some famous women with Venus in Gemini: Holly Near, Amy Ray, Courtney Love, Dar Williams, Anita Hill, Arianna Huffington, Catie Curtis, Ferron, Jennifer Lopez, Cher, Candice Bergen, Helen Mirren, Sue Grafton, Joan Collins, Judy Grahn, Venus Williams, Helen Hunt, Emma Thompson, Uma Thurman, Mary Stuart Masterson, Isabella Rossellini, Gale Wilhelm, Doris Grumbach, Lorraine Hansberry, Delta Burke, Dorothy Hamill, Elisabeth Kubler- Ross, Alice Bailey, Dolores Del Rio, Jacqueline Kennedy, Loretta Lynn, Nora Ephron, Patricia Schroeder, Bette Davis, Coretta Scott King, Lillian Hellman, Isadora Duncan, Myrna Loy, Eva Peron, Amelia Earhart, Frida Kahlo, Calamity Jane Venus in Cancer With Venus in watery Cancer, you become very attached to people, places, and objects. You are tender-hearted and a bit vulnerable, and you don’t adapt all that easily to change. You lead with your heart, and when your heart is treated too roughly, you quickly retreat. At times, you can be a bit too thin-skinned, and can make it hard for people to approach you. But when you completely trust someone, you can have the most wonderful and intimate relationships. Home is very important to you, and you function best in the places that are most home-like and comfortable. If you’re looking for a lover, find groups that are warm, welcoming and nurturing. You could get involved in an artistic group, since you have a vivid imagination, or you could join one dedicated to self-help or spiritual growth. For you, it’s most important to be accepted as you are, with all your needs and feelings. You offer the same to the woman you love. If you’re in love with a Venus-in-Cancer woman, invite her home. If your home is cozy and inviting, you’re halfway to her heart already. Take her to meet your parents, and your kids, if you have any. But don’t play with this woman’s heart. Once she has decided that you’re the one, she will be ready to move right in (with her cookbooks, favorite pillow, and collection of porcelain parrots), and she will be very hurt if you’re not entirely welcoming. Some famous women with Venus in Cancer: Wynonna Judd, Alison Krauss, Kate Bush, Stevie Nicks, Halle Berry, Hilary Swank, Meryl Streep, Kathy Bates, Sally Ride, Judy Chicago, Maeve Binchy, Isabel Allende, June Jordan, Malvina Reynolds, Marguerite Yourcenar, Alix Dobkin, Margaret Bourke-White, M.F.K. Fisher, Gwendolyn Brooks, Nikki Giovanni, Bea Arthur, Dinah Washington, Patsy Cline, Judy Garland, Lena Horne, Alice Adams, Marian Zimmer Bradley, Helen Keller, Josephine Baker, Djuna Barnes, Zelda Fitzgerald, Florence Nightengale Venus in Leo With Venus in fiery Leo, you are a person who experiences great highs and great lows. You need a lot of room for creative expression in your life, and this means a certain amount of freedom. At the same time, you also want strong, passionate relationships, and you demand great loyalty from your lovers. You are very generous, though, and you offer as much as you demand. You aren’t happy unless you live out loud - strong and willful and courageous. You want to experience the best that life has to offer, even if it means taking a few risks. In relationships, the main danger is that you can sometimes be a bit too domineering. You need lovers who are equally confident, who won’t be overshadowed by your fierce flame. (Of course, you could also find a pliable sidekick, a la Xena.) You have a lot of charisma, and can pick up lovers just about anywhere. Generally, once you’re attracted to someone, it doesn’t take long for you to cast your spell upon her. If you’re in love with a Venus-in-Leo woman, you’re probably not alone. You may have some competition, because she is rather magnetic. She will expect a lot of you, but she will also change your life in dramatic and fascinating ways. Be upfront and clear with her, and expect passion to be a ongoing part of your life - both in bed and out of it. Bring her flowers as often as possible, and remember that she’s not adverse to expensive jewelry, either. Some famous women with Venus in Leo: Madonna, Amy Winehouse, Bonnie Tyler, Heather Nova, K. T. Tunstall, Tori Amos, Lindsay Lohan, Monica Lewinsky, Candy Barr, Kathleen Turner, Nicole Kidman, Whitney Houston, Starhawk, Jewell Gomez, Xaviera Hollander, Gilda Radner, Jessye Norman, Sonia Sanchez, Lisa Alther, Mary Renault, Ann Allen Shockley, Louise Nevelson, Babe Zaharias, Bella Abzug, Barbara Walters, Barbara Mikulski, P.D. James, Lauren Bacall, Greta Garbo, Radclyffe Hall, Emmeline Pankhurst, Jane Addams, George Sand, Charlotte Corday Venus in Virgo With Venus in earthy Virgo, you are pretty discriminating about what makes you happy. You’re analytical where your pleasures are concerned, preferring things that are clear and true, even if they don’t come easily. Sometimes people think you’re being difficult, when you reject things (or people) that don’t quite fit, but the flip side is that you have an enormous appreciation for the things (and people) that do pass your exacting standards. You are a natural healer, and this is the energy that you bring to your relationships. You are a person who notices everything, and you will notice whatever your lover is carrying around with her. You are also very honest, and will tell her about it. If you want to meet women, the workplace is a good spot. When it comes to community activities, you are likely to be on the task-force, or operating the snow-plow, or checking people off lists, and you can bond with similarly engaged volunteers. If you’re in love with a Venus-in-Virgo woman, be prepared for the fact that she’s going to check you out thoroughly. This isn’t a free ride, especially in the beginning. Endear yourself to her by doing things for her, like helping to paint her bedroom or fix her plumbing (no pun intended). When seducing her, massage is a good beginning. In the bedroom, she is very natural and sensual, and she knows what works for her. Some famous women with Venus in Virgo: Martina Navratilova, Mae Jemison, Pink, Sandra Bullock, Angelica Huston, Joni Mitchell, Ammachi (the hugging saint), Annie Sprinkle, Carrie Fisher, J.K. Rowling, Linda Ronstadt, Julie Andrews, Bernice Johnson Reagon, Molly Ivins, Penny Marshal, Jane Curtin, Lily Tomlin, Madeline Kahn, Catherine Deneuve, Diana Rigg, Janet Reno, Maxine Hong Kingston, Julia Roberts, Doris Lessing, Sylvia Plath, Iris Murdoch, Kate Millett, Koko Taylor, Althea Gibson, Roslyn Carter, Geraldine Ferraro, Martha Stewart, Angela Merkel, Anne Bancroft, Brigitte Bardot, Lucille Ball, Julia Child, Mae West, Eleanor Roosevelt, Natalie Barney, Monique Wittig, Lucy Stone, Victoria Woodhull, Emily Bronte Venus in Libra With Venus in airy Libra, cooperative activities make you happy. You have lots of skills that are in great demand in the community - mediating struggles, working out compromises, promoting equality and justice - and you do these things in a gentle and civilized way. You also love culture, in all its forms, and can give something to the arts in your community - contributing your own work, as well as appreciating that of others. With all your community activities, it isn’t hard for you to meet women. And you generally find it easy to charm them, since you’re so gentle and considerate - although you won’t necessarily knock them off their feet (like someone with Venus in a fiery sign would). Your focus is on one-on-one relationships, and you are happiest with a lover. You’re very idealistic, though, and so she has to be the right one. If you’re in love with a Venus-in-Libra woman, become reconciled to the fact that she may not make up her mind quickly about you. She believes strongly in love, but she also believes in the perfect lover, and you may have to convince her that you’re that woman. The more romantic you are, the better. When you want to seduce her, don’t stint on the candles, soft lights, music and lingering kisses. Some famous women with Venus in Libra: k.d. lang, Gloria Estefan, Beyoncé, Jennifer Hudson, Diana Krall, Phranc, Marlee Matlin, Allison Janney, Althea Flynt, Maya Lin, Chrystos, Cherríe Moraga, Connie Chung, Barbara Wilson, Bille Jean King, Isabel Miller, June Arnold, Ursula LeGuin, Vivian Leigh, Grace Kelly, Dorothy Parker, Emily Post, Margaret Sanger, Queen Elizabeth I, Mary Shelley, Elizabeth Cady Stanton Venus in Scorpio With Venus in watery Scorpio, you’re a complex woman, someone who always looks below the surface. You’re fascinated by the depths of the soul, especially as it’s expressed in art and religion. You are also attracted to the shadow side of people, the criminal or outlaw element, the part that’s a little dangerous or outré. You are the kind of woman who could join a motorcycle gang, or could indulge in more private rebellions. In relationships, you experience very intense attachments. Your very soul gets tangled up with the soul of your lover, and there’s no separating you. But if you’re looking for a lover, your intensity can sometimes scare people off. You need to lighten up a bit, and to share some of the secrets you generally guard so closely, in order to let people know who you are. Highly-charged environments (like solstice rituals, slam poetry readings, political rallies and consciousness-raising groups) are good places for you to meet lovers. If you’re in love with a Scorpio woman, be ready to go deeper than you ever have before. You can’t take this woman lightly. To win her, you need to show her that you aren’t afraid of intimacy. Talk directly to her and touch her often. Take it slow and make sure she trusts you, since she’s a bit like a wild animal, although she wants more than anything to be tamed. Don’t ever take her for granted, and your sex life will be unbelievably hot for many many years. Some famous women with Venus in Scorpio: Ani di Franco, Patti Smith, Jodie Foster, Demi Moore, Sigourney Weaver, Katie Holmes, Laura Nyro, Marianne Faithfull, Rickie Lee Jones, Susan Sarandon, Andrea Dworkin, Serena Williams, Chris Evert, Florence Griffith-Joyner, Marisa Tomei, Lesléa Newman, Annie Lennox, Grace Slick, Hanan Ashrawi, Hillary Clinton, Bette Midler, Goldie Hawn, Hortense Calisher, Grace Paley, Nadine Gordimer, Denise Levertov, Anne Rice, Mary Daly, Odetta, Fannie Lou Hamer, Shirley Chisholm, Ava Gardner, Agatha Christie, Willa Cather, Marie Curie, Marie Antoinette, Jane Austen Venus in Sagittarius With Venus in fiery Sagittarius, you’re a free spirit. You’re happiest when you’re involved in some sort of exciting and inspiring adventure. You love to travel, to go on pilgrimages, to broaden your horizons either physically or intellectually. You do things on a large scale, involving casts of thousands. Your impulses are heroic and you’re not adverse to jumping into the fray, whenever a fray can be found. When it comes to relationships, the main thing is that your lover not slow you down. You want a companion, a kindred spirit in the passionate adventure that you call life. Where do you meet a woman like this? You are always getting involved in noble causes, and this is the best place to find the woman of your dreams. She has to be someone you respect, an individual with her own strong beliefs about the things that are important to you. If you’re in love with a Venus-in-Sagittarius woman, give her lots of space to move around. It’s true that there’s some risk involved here, since she could move entirely out of your range. But if your relationship is working - that is, if it remains exciting and involving and mutually respectful - she will always come back to you. If you want to seduce this woman, don’t be afraid to keep her a little off- balance. Live in the moment, and try new things, as she will be attracted to your spirit of adventure. Some famous women with Venus in Sagittarius: Kate Clinton, Whoopi Goldberg, Jamie Lee Curtis, Sally Field, Angela Davis, Joan Baez, Tina Turner, Sinead O’Connor, Katy Perry, Christina Aguilera, Roseanne Barr, Joan Armatrading, Elana Dykewomon, Donna Summer, Germaine Greer, Barbara Grier, Margaret Atwood, Joan Didion, Eartha Kitt, Jane Fonda, Dorothy Dandridge, Muriel Rukeyser, Maureen Duffy, Anne Sexton, Madeleine L’ Engle, Margaret Thatcher, Big Mama Thornton, Sulamith Wulfing, Hannah Arendt, Zora Neale Hurston, Hedy Lamarr, George Eliot Venus in Capricorn With Venus in earthy Capricorn, you are drawn to opportunities to prove yourself. You like your work, and may be a bit of a workaholic. But even when you aren’t working, you get involved in ambitious personal projects, and take them quite seriously. You don’t like a lot of frills and complications, but appreciate classic structures. When something stands the test of time, you appreciate it all the more. In relationships, you also appreciate the value of structure. You aren’t particularly sentimental, and you don’t always find it easy to be romantic - but you offer stark honesty and personal clarity to your partner. If you’re looking for a lover, you might take another look at the women you’ve known for years. You may also bond with women over shared goals, such as increasing lesbian presence in professional associations. If you’re in love with a Venus-in-Capricorn woman, she isn’t the easiest sell in the world. Basically, she will choose you, if she decides that you are worthy. She has a strong sex drive, so she may take you as a lover, but that doesn’t mean that you’re necessarily going to be a fixture in her life. If you want this, you have to convince her that there’s a good fit between your goals and her own. Some famous women with Venus in Capricorn: Robin Morgan, Alice Walker, Rita Mae Brown, Alicia Keys, Sarah McLachlan, Cassandra Wilson, Julianne Moore, Scarlett Johansson, Corinne Bailey Rae, Meg Tilly, Geena Davis, Amy Tan, Bonnie Raitt, Dolly Parton, Diane Keaton, Faye Dunaway, Toni Morrison, Susan Sontag, Barbara Jordan, Maria Tallchief, Gypsy Rose Lee, Edith Piaf, Simone Weil, Maria Callas, Indira Gandhi, Virginia Woolf, Louisa May Alcott, Joan of Arc Venus in Aquarius With your Venus in airy Aquarius, you don’t mind being different. A life of ordinary mediocrity would bore you completely. You’re happiest when you’re learning something, whether it relates to science or history or politics or psychology. You just love knowledge, and you love applying it, experimenting in your own life. In relationships, you like a lot of freedom. You’re experimental in this area as well, eager to try all sorts of different forms and structures, just to see what happens. Experiments are by their very nature transitory, and eventually, you’re willing to check out more traditional arrangements. If you want to meet women, the classroom is always a good spot. You are very good in any sort of group, especially if there’s some sort of radical social or political agenda, and a lively discussion could spark a romance. If you’re in love with a Venus-in-Aquarius woman, be a friend first. For her, friendship is the model for all relationships. She wants someone who will intrigue her, teach her things, stimulate her mentally. If you want to seduce her, don’t drag out your time-tested techniques, but try something different. Because she lives so much in her head, she may forget about sex for periods of time - and so you will have to keep coming up with new ways to get her attention. Some famous women with Venus in Aquarius: Ellen Degeneres, Mary Chapin Carpenter, Sharon Stone, Teri Hatcher, Kathy Najimby, Holly Hunter, Oprah Winfrey, Christine Lahti, Cybil Shepherd, Vanessa Williams, Rigoberta Menchú, Glenn Close, Carole King, Aretha Franklin, Kiri Te Kanawa, Janis Joplin, Mary Tyler Moore, Audre Lorde, Toni Cade Bambara, Yoko Ono, Gloria Steinem, Jane Goodall, Diane Fossey, Cicely Tyson, Ruth Nichols, Muriel Spark, Marian Anderson, Simone de Beauvoir, Jane Rule, Jane Bowles, Carson McCullers, Diane Arbus, Marlene Dietrich, Margaret Mead, Amy Lowell, Gertrude Stein Venus in Pisces With your Venus in watery Pisces, you’re a very sensitive soul. You’re just a little different from everyone else, perhaps more psychic, and you need to do what feels right to you. You pick up dishonesty and unhappiness more clearly than other people do. You’re attracted to the spiritual realm, to pure beauty, to art and music. When you’re in love with someone, you join with them on a soul-level. You don’t care that much about the structure of your relationship, or about any practical concerns. You just want to love completely, absolutely, and unconditionally. There’s some danger of merging too much, of losing your own edges and identity, because you are capable of such a deep layer of intimacy. When it comes to picking women up, you can be a little shy. They are attracted to your sweetness, but it’s not always easy for you to follow through. You could meet kindred spirits in artistic or spiritual communities. If you are in love with a Venus-in-Pisces woman, know that she has to trust you first. Although she may seem confident on the outside - depending on her sun and rising signs - she has some vulnerability in the area of romance. You need to be very gentle and kind with her, and remember that she’s particularly sensitive to the emotional atmosphere you create. You can’t really seduce her unless you love her, and this means loving her with no strings attached. For this woman, every moment is eternity. Some famous women with Venus in Pisces: Lucy Lawless, Laura Dern, Michelle Obama, Celine Dion, Katherine V. Forrest, Michele Pfeiffer, Diane Keaton, Emmylou Harris, Roberta Flack, Dusty Springfield, Leontyne Price, Barbra Streisand, Vanessa Redgrave, Shirley Bassey, Ella Fitzgerald, Marge Piercy, Maya Angelou, Shirley MacLaine, Patricia Highsmith, Billie Holiday, Flannery O’Connor, Sally Gearhart, Queen Elizabeth II, Mother Jones, Violette LeDuc, Flora Tristan, Colette, Susan B. Anthony, Berthe Morisot, Anais Nin, Elizabeth Barrett Browning |
If you don’t have a copy of your horoscope, and you don’t know your Venus sign, go to http://www.astro.com/cgi/ade.cgi, and enter your birth data. After you click "continue", your birthchart will appear. The boxed area (on the left side of the page) lists all the planets, along with the degree and the sign that they’re in. (Only the first three letters of the sign are given - e.g. “Aqu” for Aquarius, “Vir” for Virgo, etc.) Venus is the fourth one down. What sign is she in? Follow these same steps to obtain anyone else’s horoscope, as long as you have their birthdata. If you don’t know the time when your lover was born, just enter noon, since Venus only changes sign about once a month. The day and year are essential, however, and this is a good excuse to strike up a conversation with the woman you’ve been fantasizing about! |